It’s no secret that families can sometimes be pretty complicated – there’s a lot of love but there can also be plenty of drama.
One woman has recently been feeling like her family life has gotten so dramatic, it’s like living in a soap opera.
The unnamed woman, 24, took to Reddit to ask for some advice after discovering a family secret that has completely changed her life.
In an anonymous post on the Am I the A**hole forum, she explained how she had discovered that she was the product of an affair and that her dad wasn’t actually her biological father.
In her post, the woman from the US, explains: “So, my life’s turned into a bloody soap opera recently and I could use some outside opinions here.
“I am the product of my mom having an affair. Fortunately, my dad decided to forgive my mom and keep me, and I had a pretty good upbringing. But I don’t really look a lot like the rest of my family and I did ask questions of a ‘why am I the only one with -insert trait here-?’ nature growing up.
“When I was 17 my mom took me out for ice cream and introduced me to my bio-father. She said that she felt I was old enough to know the truth, and explained about her affair, while also A) making me promise I wouldn’t tell my older sister and B) hammering home along with my bio-father that he’d never be part of my life and didn’t want me.
“It was a lot, I won’t lie, but I learned to suck it up and move on with my life.”
She goes on to say how she’s been keeping the secret for the last few years, but has recently encountered a big problem – her sister was dating her biological father and had no idea.
“My big sis has always gravitated towards older men and two months ago shared a picture of herself and her new boyfriend. Who, to my shock, turned out to be my bio-father.
“I debated what to do for a couple of days, then ultimately decided she needed the truth and told her. My sister did not take it well and dumped him, but she wasn’t angry with me.
“My mom, on the other hand, is furious. She says I divulged something that wasn’t my secret to share, and that I had no business telling anyone. That since bio-father isn’t related to my sister it didn’t matter if he dated my sister and it wasn’t like they were talking marriage anyway. It’s been two months and she’s still angry.”
She adds: “At the time I thought I was doing the right thing, but I’ve never seen my mom this angry before, and she’s sustained that anger for two solid months, so I’m starting to worry. Did I actually do something really s*ty, am I the ahole?”
The Reddit post quickly went viral, garnering over 2,000 responses, with many people saying the woman wasn’t in the wrong for telling her sister the truth.
One person said: “It is your life that was affected by her affair. It is 100% your business. I have a hard time believing bio did not know and he was having a go at the younger version of his old flame. This is gross and your sister deserved to know. You are a fantastic sibling and NTA.”
Another wrote: “What if Sis had gotten serious about this guy and started bringing him to family gatherings? That would sure cause some awkwardness. Mom wasn’t thinking this through very well.”
A third replied: “If Mom didn’t want her personal life shared, she shouldn’t have cheated. Sister deserved to know.”